posted by anak posmen chemor | Labels: | Posted On Friday, July 23, 2010 at 6:56 PM

Daripada Abu Umamah drpd Rasulullah : " Siapa yg memaafkan ketika mampu dan berkuasa nescaya Allah ampunkannya pada hari kesukaran [hari kiamat]"

Hadis Riwayat At-Thabrani.

Sebab kita manusia tidak pernah lepas dari buat salah dan silap. semua orang sama dari sudut itu, but how we adapt our mistake and learn not to repeat it again is different, far different.

Have you ever made a mistake? Of course you have. We all have! If you were the only one affected by the mistake, you might just consider yourself foolish. If it caused harm or inconvenience to another person, you might choose to apologize. If someone caused you harm, you might decide to forgive them. In either situation, you need to make one last choice--to forgive yourself or not.

For me, it is more than difficult to forget things and move on, as if nothing has happened, no matter how important it is to do the same. However, holding feelings of resentment can affect your peace of mind and ruin your happiness. Therefore, you can’t afford to let the anger remain within you. Pardoning others and putting a hurtful incident off your mind needs to be worked upon, since it doesn’t come easy.

5 Ways to Forgive & Forget :

Forget What Happened

Hostility and bitterness survives in people who find it difficult to forget the past. Moving on in life is the key to forgetting the hurt caused to you, by other people. Stacking up hard feelings for someone who has hurt you will not allow you to bury the hatchet and you will constantly find yourself dwelling on something that cannot be changed now. Live in the present, look forward to the future and bury the bad memories of the past.

Allow Others To Apologize

Sometimes, we are so infuriated and hurt over an incident that we do not allow the other person to buy time and come up with an apology when things cool down. Once you get a heart-felt apology from the person who has hurt you, it becomes easier to forgive him/her. Remind yourself that even you would have hurt others at one point of time, intentionally or unintentionally. Would you want others to hold that against you forever? Allowing others to apologize will save you from becoming bitter to them.

Communicate The Hurt

Rather than holding a grudge and allowing it to thrive, you should communicate your feelings to the one who has hurt you, especially if the person is close to you. Many people tend to keep things to themselves, and it makes them averse to communication. It is important to realize that conversation will allow the other person to offer an explanation for his/her hurtful behavior and help you overcome the same. Therefore, make sure that you do not shut down the lines of communication completely.

Realize That Everyone Is Human

Realize that it is only human to make mistakes and most of us don’t hurt others intentionally, for sadistic reasons. If you can accept this premise, forgiving and forgetting will become a lot more easier. While some people believe that revenge is the sweetest joy, it is important to remember that “the joy of revenge is only for a day, but the glory of forgiving remains forever”. The choice is yours!

Let Time Heal

There are times when the hurt is simply impossible to forget, even after you have forgiven the other person. While moving on is easier said than done, for all the comprehensible reasons, never forget that time is the biggest healer. Bitterness and bad memories pertaining to an incident will fade away with the passage of time. If forgetting a hurtful incident is impossible for you, leave the healing on time. Eventually, you will be able to put it out of your mind.

You'll be great if you can forgive people, and forget the mistakes. Trust me. Thats what this hadith want to encourage us :)


posted by anak posmen chemor | Labels: | Posted On Thursday, July 22, 2010 at 5:14 PM

Sometimes you just have to smile,
pretend everything is okay.

Put on a fake smile,
so that everything seems fine.

Yes, i can't heal it as easily as yesterday,
maybe i gonna need another kind of over-the-counter drugs.

Hmm, but i always hope that i will be strong enough to stay still.
and for this moment,
i always recall how strong ibu on her tough day.

This phrase from The Holy Al Quran ease everything,
"Truly, to Allah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return"

insya Allah.

friday :)

posted by anak posmen chemor | Labels: | Posted On at 7:38 AM

I've prayed for someone like you,

And I hope that you feel the same
way too.


So proclaim the glad tidings to the Believers. (At Taubah : 112)


posted by anak posmen chemor | Labels: , | Posted On Wednesday, July 21, 2010 at 5:00 PM

aku faham kenapa perlu menjauhi hemisfera yang satu,
bukan kerana aku takut,
yang sudah diukirkan sudah,
yang lepas jangan disurahkan kembali.

kerana aku pingin melupakan,
rasa jauh yang abadi.

kerana aku rindukan halaman,
yang lebih kekal bahagia.

hari-harinya dipenuhi kemelesetan,
berat dan susah,
hingga dia tidak sedar sekelilingnya,
melupakan siapa dan apa dan kenapa dan bila.

tidak banyak lagi hari yang dijanjikan oleh Mu,
aku sedar kalimat manusia sang ahli,
cuma doaku sama sehari-hari.

sebagaimana hari sebelumnya,
dan hari-hari sebelumnya,
lindungilah hatinya tuhanku,
kasihilah dirinya tuhanku,
rahmatilah penghidupannya tuhanku,
ampunilah salah silapnya,
pimpinlah dia dengan kasih sayang Mu yang Maha Luas.

untuk hari esok, dan selamanya.

It's okay

posted by anak posmen chemor | Labels: | Posted On at 4:36 PM

Big world
Says he wants to see the light for once,
Well maybe if you try

It's so sad
Babe don't look so sad
I've got it wrong today

And if she doesn't go your way
Look up to blue skies and say hey
It's ok it's ok

happy 5th anniversary, my beloved 'young' hypertension

posted by anak posmen chemor | Labels: | Posted On Thursday, July 15, 2010 at 6:50 PM

One of the things i enjoy most of life is telling people that i am sick.
The loads of trouble you get in when you know.
And it only took one second to make that decision.

You see, life has a way of specially caressing you into its surreptitious arms and when you feel comfortable, it crushed you and you turn into nothing but dust.
Love, life, death.
Three simple steps to the next life.

I heard a quote saying
"Where we are, where we live, what we do.
It isn't home yet.
We are on a bus going home."

So why are we so afraid to live life and die?

I am not okay,
yes i do skip classes this semester.
Should i show it off to you how much pressure inside me,
to make you realize the pain that i am surviving ?

Another quote i heard was something like,
"Death, it's peaceful easy,
much easier then living."

Don't you feel better already?
I don't know about all of you, but i'm sure as hell i'm ready to go home.

My close friend in SMSU C showed text message from his friend last couple of nights,
someone's dad had passed away because of High Blood Pressure.
Yes, just the same one as i had, with the right spelling,
all the time.

I understand, how bad this kind of hypertension in my head,
spinning like hell.
and I am not going to ease them with drugs,
as what i did for the past five years,
so deal with it. !

Don't get me wrong, i love my "temporary" life.
I am very happy.
But there is a "home sweet home"

Yes, "home sweet home"
insya Allah.

No one knows, my hard times with you,
its precious to spent my life with you,
happy anniversary, since 17th of July 2006 i heard of you,
at emergency ward, Kuala Kangsar District Hospital,
and i hope you'll ease yourself inside me.

insya Allah.


posted by anak posmen chemor | Labels: , | Posted On Wednesday, July 14, 2010 at 3:49 AM

rasa nostalgik sesuatu yang fitrah,
terbit dari kerinduan yg cukup mendalam
hingga masih membekaskan kesan
walau musim laju beredar dan berjalan.

tapi nostalgik hanya sekadar lalu seketika,
jangan hingga membebankan pemilik jiwa,
jangan hingga memberatkan kaki-kaki dari melangkah kehadapan,
kerana kita perlu terus menongkah arus dalam perjalanan panjang
walau belum nampak kesudahan,
jangan hingga membebalkan otak-otak dari memerah
terus menerus dalam perjuangan,
walau belum nampak kejayaan.

jadikan bibit-bibit nostalgik sekadar melepas rasa,
rindu yang terpendam buat seketika,
selepas kau surahkannya,
genggam nostalgik di dalam lubuk hati,
atau kau hembuskan
bagai api yang membakar,
kerna rindu yang abadi datang dari sebuah epik yang mencapai kejayaan.

teruskan berjuang.

on how,

posted by anak posmen chemor | Labels: | Posted On Tuesday, July 13, 2010 at 9:39 PM

for HER Arrow goes forward only after pulling in to backward. Bullet goes forward only after pressing the trigger backward. Every human being will get happy only after facing the difficulties in their life path, so do not afraid to face your difficulties :)


posted by anak posmen chemor | Labels: | Posted On at 5:40 PM

Just because her eyes don't tear doesn't mean her heart doesn't cry. And just because she comes off strong, doesn't mean there's nothing wrong. To complete her, is to understand all her conflict, and to make her feel safe with you. And, as always,
do for others more than you do for yourself.

just live

posted by anak posmen chemor | Labels: | Posted On Monday, July 12, 2010 at 8:03 PM

“ In life, we do things. some we wish we had never done and some we wish we could replay a million times in our heads. Nevertheless, they make us who we are and in the end, they shape every detail about us. If we were to reverse any of them, we wouldn’t be at the exact place that we are today. So just live, make mistakes and learn from them, and never second guess who you are, where you have been, and where you are going. ”

how to express.

posted by anak posmen chemor | Labels: | Posted On at 8:01 PM

It’s better to just quietly miss someone rather than let them know and get no response.


posted by anak posmen chemor | Labels: | Posted On at 8:00 PM

I wish I could sneak into her mind. I wish I knew how to maintain your good mood. I wish I knew how to make you happy all the time. I wish and I wish

semoga kutemukan jawaban

posted by anak posmen chemor | Labels: | Posted On at 6:38 PM

sampaikanlah pada ibuku
aku pulang terlambat waktu
ku akan menaklukkan malam
dengan jalan pikiranku

sampaikanlah pada bapakku
aku mencari jalan atas
semua keresahan-keresahan ini
kegelisahan manusia

retaplah malam yg dingin

tak pernah berhenti berjuang
pecahkan teka-teki malam
tak pernah berhenti berjuang
pecahkan teka-teki keadilan

berbagi waktu dengan alam
kau akan tahu siapa dirimu yg sebenarnya
hakikat manusia

akan aku telusuri
jalan yg setapak ini
semoga kutemukan jawaban